Let's begin by having you close your eyes.
Take a deep breath in and slowly let it out.
Great, give me two more like that.
I want you to recall the last time you laughed deeply, with your whole body.
A deep big belly laugh.
A breathless, unrelenting, tearing up at the corners of your eyes kind of laugh.
Where were you?
Who were you with?
How did it feel in your body?
Was there joy there?
What about love?
Take a few moments to savor this feeling, letting the joy in this memory wash over you.
Now, take another deep breath in, and let it out.
And when you're ready open your eyes.
Laughter like this is almost always shared laughter (Scott et al., 2014). Laughter is associated with relationship wellbeing (Kurtz & Algoe, 2015). Uncontrollable laughter like this is rare; if it were a frequent thing, we'd have trouble getting things done. That level of levity is fleeting but worthwhile. Recalling it is way to remind ourselves of our capacity for playfulness and joy.
Nehjla Mashal, PhD
Edited by Jordan Jones, LICSW
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